It's not that you should never love something so much that it can control you. It's that you need to love something that much so that you can never be controlled. It's not a weakness. It's your best strength.
Surplus meant unnecessary. Not required.
You couldn’t be a Surplus if you were needed by someone else. You couldn’t be a Surplus if you were loved.
Kill it! Shut it down! Lock him out! Give him nothing! You can string him along for years! You’ve had years together and what do you do?! You waste it!